Listen to the episode Season 3|Ep 45
On this episode of the Coaching Studio
In this podcast episode, join Lyssa deHart and Carly Anderson at they dive deep into the world of coaching, discussing personal growth, their individual journeys, and the pivotal moments that shaped their careers. Carly shares an impactful story about a letter from a friend leading her to a personal development program during a tough phase in her advertising profession, ultimately guiding her towards a more fulfilling path.
Both emphasize the profound influence of coaching on behavior modification and consistent personal growth, highlighting the progression of coaching techniques over time. The duo addresses a common challenge coaches face regarding whether to allow clients to speak uninterrupted or to intervene. Carly underlines that any interruption should prioritize the client’s requirements, emphasizing the essence of genuine listening and establishing trust. The importance of non-verbal cues, the benefits of observation, and the concept of “partnering” in coaching are also explored. Both agree that feeling truly listened to is synonymous with feeling loved and acknowledged.
The conversation takes a critical turn when addressing the topic of Trauma-informed coaching, highlighting concerns about its application and the necessity for an abundance of training to handle such cases with care. Together, they explore the importance of understanding boundaries and recognizing when professional therapy is more appropriate than coaching.
Carly’s Recommendation:
Since 2005, Carly has been an active ICF Assessor for MCC, PCC, and ACC credential reviews. She has contributed to the community of ICF Assessors, including leading MCC assessor calls and trainings and being part of the global team to update the PCC Markers in 2020.
Carly is currently involved as a volunteer in two ICF projects to continue to develop and evolve credentialing. Since 2013, Carly has offered a robust mentor coaching program, currently filling group #71, a real number! So far, she has mentored 170 coaches who have received their MCC, as well as many more coaches currently in process. She knows the quality of that coaching level makes a difference to the clients they coach.
About the Host
Lyssa deHart ditched her therapy practice to become a Leadership Confidence Coach. Along the way she discovered a passion for professional coaching and wanted to find ways to share that passion with the world. Come join her in discovering and meeting some of the most amazing professional coaches on the planet. Her goal is to inspire coaches. Lyssa is the author of StoryJacking: Change Your Dialogue, Transform Your Life and The Reflective Coach. Lyssa is an ICF PCC Assessor, Certified Mentor Coach, and budding Coach SuperVisor. Lyssa uses her understanding of the ICF Core Competencies, combined with her knowledge of Neuroscience, to work with people to become extraordinary professional coaches. Let’s Go!
Lyssa and Carly. What a deeply enriching conversation. As a former Psychologist ( who also specialized, like you Lyssa), in PTSD, i agree with your statements about the recent proliferation of “ trauma-informed coaching”. Coaches who venture there , should have a therapist as a consultant on their coaching process, and/or determine if their client might better be served in therapy as TRAUMA can resurface for some with triggers.
Thank you Patrick, yes we thought we might ruffle some feathers, and maybe it’s a bias of mine, but I think trauma is such a delicate dance with clients and even seasoned trauma therapists struggle to hold safe spaces with deep complex trauma and dissociative elements. Understanding part/voices isn’t enough. Absolutely supervision and having a very well trained therapist consultant for that work is needed. I had regular calls and sessions with my EMDR trainer and consulted others when doing that work. It’s so easy to have people regress and be re-traumatized. Thank you for the thoughtful comments. :)