The first stage in a relationship. The time in which two people meet socially to figure out compatibility.
The experience of deciding what we like about each other.
And, what we don’t like.
It’s a little like taking a leap of faith on another person.
So, how do you know when you’ve met someone you want to know better?
This need for connection is normal. We all have this drive.
The desire to be known, to share intimacy, to experience the adventure. To show up and be seen.
We feel stronger and braver when we have a shared experience to support us.
When do you feel connected?
Would you set off on an adventure without some idea about where you are going?
Would you leave your home without the tools you need to succeed?
Would you do any research on what to expect when you arrive?
Yet, when it comes to choosing a partner, many people make a wish and a hope. Only to discover that the person they chose, wasn’t going where they wanted to go at all. In fact, maybe values, goals, and dreams were all different.
Why is this
Do you feel confident that you will meet someone you are compatible with?
Do you waffle back and forth between holding to your standards or lowering them?
Do you jump into relationships fast and then leave them slowly?
What, besides chemistry, let’s you know you have met someone you want to get to know better?
How do you determine deeper shared values?
What relationship skills are important to you for a healthy relationship?
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